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I learned this 2012 …

December 31, 2012 · Filed under 2012, Life, relasyon, single, womanhood

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  1. I learned this 2012 that everyday’s a chance for you to correct your wrongs. =) Everyday you can improve some more!

  2. I learned this 2012 that when you think too much about it… you mess up more.

  3. I learned this 2012 that I’m actually a very emotional person & that I just have to accept it…cause suppressing it will never work!

  4. I learned this 2012 to be more PATIENT yet ANTICIPANT for change because patience is a virtue but time is gold!

  5. I learned this 2012 that at the end of the day, I have myself to love better than anybody else.

  6. I learned this 2012 not to attach myself to people too much. People do not always stay 🙂 they come, they go..

  7. I learned this 2012 it’s not too late to fulfill ur dreams. Even when they’re pushed back or you’re hindered, persevere!

  8. I learned this 2012 living solo teaches you a lot more about life and how to deal and make it exciting!

  9. I learned this 2012 that some people will drain your patience out, & all you can do is to hold on to the little patience you have left.

  10. I learned this 2012 that U don’t have to mind what other people say.it’s YOU who knows WHO U really R

  11. I learned this 2012 that everyday’s a chance for you to correct your wrongs. =) Everyday you can improve some more!

  12. I learned this 2012 That never stop learning, because life never stops teaching

  13. I learned this 2012 I’m not getting any younger, might as well enjoy life and grow responsible at the same time.

  14. I learned this 2012 that self preservation should come first, before anything

  15. I learned this 2012 that every action we do have its own consequences, regardless if it’s in a good way or not.

  16. I learned this 2012 don’t stick in one circle of friends Make Two or more circle of friends. It will make you happy 🙂

  17. I learned this 2012 that there is never a right time to say goodbye

  18. I learned this 2012 not everyone deserves your Trust & you should know what to hold and what to let go.

  19. I learned this 2012 that even though you’re single, you still get hurt.

  20. I learned this 2012 not to give too much (time, effort) to sum1 hu doesn’t deserve it! 🙂  choices that were done coz of impulsion’s are bad.562379t3lxj4ejfi l_b4091985e096407d9187a2853cbe8331 431 729370jif0lvtd3e

 

 

 

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Love is the Scariest feeling of all!

December 24, 2012 · Filed under commitment, lav life, Life, relasyon

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Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

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When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

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There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again.

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Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.

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Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

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..letting go..

December 10, 2012 · Filed under forgiveness, Life

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Whenever you feel a negative emotion, be alone in a room and just sit down with it and feel. Don’t judge it, criticize it, intellectualize it, or explain it away. Just allow yourself to feel the pain. It’s okay. Accompany it – breathe into it – and after a while, you’ll feel the anger or fear or sadness lose it’s urgency and power. Tenderly embrace your pain. And then, at the right time, you will be able to let it go.

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Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past. Those who hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is past. Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.

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Speak quietly to yourself and promise there will be better days. Whisper gently to yourself and provide assurance that you really are extending your best effort.
Console your bruised and tender spirit with reminders of many other successes
Offer comfort in practical and tangible ways — as if you were encouraging your dearest friend.
Recognize that on certain days the greatest grace is that the day is over and you get to close your eyes.
Tomorrow comes more brightly.

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Message To My Ex.

December 8, 2012 · Filed under EX-BF

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1. You were just another chapter in my life journey. I’m mature enough to not bash you, I’ve grown from what I experienced w/ u

2. Treating me as if I was no different than your ex is the reason you didn’t see a difference not because I wasn’t different.

 3. I hope you mature out of that egotistical character. Self-centered people never find true love.

4. I loved you but i wasn’t in love with you. It was a friendly type of love fueled by lust which died out when i finally woke up

5. I hope you saw your errors as well. Believing that the relationships ended only because I did too many wrongs is wrong

 6. You are the example of what i do not want. Not saying you won’t be the right one for someone else but you were wrong for me.

 7. Thank you for helping me see some of the things i needed to change before i meet the right one.

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If you feel something…

December 2, 2012 · Filed under forgiveness

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A lot of us view emotional pain as a mistake.

We see it as something that needs to be fixed.

We decide that feeling this kind of pain makes us weak.

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And we tell ourselves that the only way to be strong and survive is to not allow ourselves to feel the hurt.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t come without hardship.

Feeling lost, scared, wounded, sad, or disappointed, doesn’t make us weak—it makes us human.
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We are emotional beings wired to feel and react to our experiences.

By denying that part of ourselves, we’re not only invalidating our feelings, but we’re also neglecting our human need to express what we feel.

If you feel something, you’re feeling it for a reason.

If you feel something, it’s important and valid because it’s real to you.

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Burying your feelings doesn’t make them disappear—it intensifies them and keeps you stuck.

The only way to heal from the pain is to allow yourself to feel your feelings.

That means giving yourself permission to feel whatever you feel, whenever you feel it, without conditions.

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It means removing any and all judgment you have about emotional pain.

And it takes recognizing that even unpleasant feelings can be gifts in disguise.

Without sadness, we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the times when we’re happy.

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Without struggle, we wouldn’t value our triumphs and successes.

Without getting lost, we wouldn’t be able to explore who we are and take the journey of self-discovery.

Without the pain of our mistakes, there would be no learning or growth.

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And without our wounds, we wouldn’t recognize our ability to heal.

Emotional pain may not be comfortable or easy to endure, but it certainly isn’t something to be ashamed of.

It’s a normal and inevitable part of life.

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Instead of fighting your feelings, choose to embrace them.

The sooner you allow yourself to feel them, the sooner they will pass.

And the sooner you can accept that emotional pain is a part of our human existence, the closer you are to healing and freedom…

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