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Things We Forget To Say “Thank You” For…

So that’s what I want to reflect on today – some quick reminders about the things you, too, likely forget to say “thank you” for:

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  1. “Thank you for life’s surprises.” – Notice and cherish life’s surprises.  Just because it’s not what you were expecting, doesn’t mean it’s not everything you’ve been waiting for.  So take a deep breath when you’re rejected from something good.  It often means you’re being redirected to something better.  Be patient.  Be positive.  Keep going.

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2. “Thank you for the truth I deal with every day.” – Too many of us prefer gentle lies to hard truths.  But make no mistake, in the end it’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie.  And beware of half-truths too – you may have gotten a hold of the wrong half.  Open your eyes.  You must see things how they are instead of how you hoped, wished or expected them to be.  Sometimes it’s hard to accept the truth when the lies were exactly what you wanted to know, but be strong.  Life is too short to live a lie.

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3. “Thank you for the tough times that taught me important lessons.” – God allows you to experience the low points of life in order to teach you lessons that you could learn no other way.

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4.“Thank you for the challenges I must overcome today.” – The brick walls in life are there for a reason.  They are not there to keep you out.  They are there to give you a chance to show how badly you want something.  Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it as badly as you do.  They are there to stop the other people.  There is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you from making progress, one step at a time. 

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5. “Thank you for giving me the courage to continue.” – Courage isn’t having the strength to go on; it’s going on even when you don’t have strength.  And remember, it does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.

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6. “Thank you for giving me the strength to smile.” – Anyone can be happy sometimes.  It takes a human being with real heart to make beauty out of the stuff that naturally makes us weep.

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7.“Thank you for the beauty that remains.” – Even when times are really tough, don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.  

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Focusing on who you are and what your life is right now.

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At a certain point, life becomes less about who you’re becoming and more about who you’ve become.  What you used to think of as the future has become the present, and you can’t help but wonder if your life wouldn’t be better if you’d just lived it more fully in the past.  But how could you have?  You were too busy thinking about the future!

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Once you’re past a certain age, you can hardly believe you wasted even one minute of your youth not enjoying it.  And the last thing you want to do now is steal any more life from yourself by failing to be deeply in it while it’s happening.  You finally get it–not just theoretically, but viscerally–that this moment is all you have.

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 You don’t close your eyes anymore and wonder who you might be in 20 years; if you’re smart, you study the tape of your current existence to monitor how you’re doing now.  You see the present as an ongoing act of creation.  You look more closely at your thoughts, behavior, and interaction with others.  You understand that if you’re coming at life from fear and separation, you have no reason to expect anything but fear and separation back.  You seek to increase your strengths and decrease your weaknesses.  You look at your wounds and ask God to heal them.  You ask forgiveness for the things you’re ashamed of.  You no longer seek your satisfaction in things outside yourself, completion in other people, or peace of mind in either the past or future.  You are who you are, not who you might one day be.  Your life is what it is, not what it might someday be.  Focusing on who you are and what your life is right now, you come to the ironic and almost amusing realization that, yes, the fun is in the journey itself.-   Marianne Williamson

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June thoughts ◕‿◕

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You’ll notice how during your good times, its easy to believe in the truth of whatever happens, happens for something good. But when the bad times come by, you can’t seem to think of anything but bad things for your future. What happens is that we get so occupied by our problems, that we simply can’t see, understand or believe how whatever is happening could be happening for any good at all.

That’s exactly the point, whether or not we see it or believe it, there is some good in everything that’s happening to us. Just hang in there, and know things will be fine. Its not about getting what you want, or things turning out to be great, but just the realization that what you get at the end of it all is good for you.

 

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So you used to have some close friends in the past. But with the passage of time you practically have nobody by your side. Now you naturally feel bad because of this loneliness and wonder why you are being made to suffer like this.

Now logically understand, if you had people around you earlier and don’t have any now, things can only become better from here. Yes, this phase might have been a little longer than you expected, but don’t worry, while life is subtly making you stronger for the future, it is also actively working towards getting some people around you, so you can keep each other happy Just trust life, it works for you in ways you can’t imagine.

 

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When you have less, you want a little more. When you are given a lot, you start wanting a lot more. Controlling desires is one of the most important ways to be happy. Take a stock of how much you are asking for, maybe reducing your desires is all it will take to make you happy.

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Just dont hurt back…

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As human beings, we are sometimes vulnerable to being hurt by others. When we’re hurt, we’re apt to retaliate and protect ourselves and react in kind (in a way that is definitely not kind). When we’re hurt we tend to think of revenge, and to then react and respond to that hurt by striking back, thinking that we’re justified and this will be justice served to the hurter. We think that hurting the person who’s hurt us will make us feel good to see them suffer as they’ve made us suffer. When we do strike back in revenge, and we manage to hurt the hurter in return, the “happiness” and satisfaction we experience is short-lived. This further erodes our sense of well-being and peace, because this is not true happiness and satisfaction. It is far more self-satisfying in the long run to consciously choose not to exact any revenge at all upon one who’s hurt us. The best “revenge” is always to acknowledge the hurt, express the pain, repair yourself, strengthen and heal yourself, forgive those who hurt you, release the pain (and the experience) and let it go. Hanging on to the hurt, with anger, bitterness and resentment only hurts you and those around you. If you want peace, choose peace instead. To have self-respect and peace is the best way to strike back.

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Welcoming year of the SNAKE, In 2013…

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  1. In 2013 you better not be complaining about men & how sorry men are. You better be evaluating yourself, making changes & better decisions.

  2. In 2013 you better not Talk about some “New year new me” and been doing the same damn thing for the past 6 years!

  3. In 2013 you better not run back to the person who emotionally wrecked you in 2012. Leave it behind.

  4. In 2013 you better not remind me of the mistakes i made in 2012

  5. In 2013 you better not go through the same pain with the same person. If they didn’t make you better, let them go & find someone who does.

  6. In 2013 you better not bully anyone, think you’re better than everyone else, or intentionally hurt someone physically/mentally.

  7. In 2013 you better not be saying ” Dear 2013, please be nice with me “

  8. In 2013 you better not be thinking that Ted Mosby will be anywhere close to telling us who his wife is. (hahaha. How I Met your Mother)

  9. In 2013 you better not be looking for a new Mayan prediction. The world isn’t ending. Get over it.

  10. In 2013 you better not “LIE” but you should try to be better than you are now.

  11. In 2013 you should never take things for granted. Appreciate good health, family & those who surround you with love.

  12. In 2013 never judge anyone because everyone is struggling with their own problems and in a split second they could be gone.

  13. In 2013 don’t go a mile for someone who wouldn’t go an inch for you.

  14. In 2013 I will not get upset every time someone doesn’t like me. It’s a waste of time to worry about it.

  15. In 2013 never depend too much on anyone in this world. At the end of the day, you only have yourself.

  16. In 2013 pursue what drives your curiosity. There’s good in all bad. Be nice to those who ignore you. Appreciate second chances.

  17. In 2013 I will never give second chance cause they don’t change, they just get better at lying.

  18. In 2013 I need to be patient. My time will come. And all the things I’m working towards & praying for will come at the right time

  19. In 2013 follow your dreams and work hard because anything can happen when you put your mind to it.

  20. In 2013  I’m going to get serious with someone and know their real intentions from the beginning .602934_456857117694639_552047860_nlifewithoutfrnship 431 562379t3lxj4ejfi

 

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Let’s make things simple again.

Over the course of time, we made our lives more and more difficult, and we started losing touch with who we really are and what we really need.

So let’s get back to the basics, shall we?  Let’s make things simple again.  It’s easy.  Here are some ways to do just that:

Life is not complex.  We are complex.  Life is simple,
and the simple thing is the right thing.
– Oscar Wilde

Don’t try to read other people’s minds.  Don’t make other people try to read yours.  Communicate.

Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you.  Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.

Your health is your life, keep up with it.  Get an annual physical check-up.

Live below your means.  Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.  Always sleep on big purchases.  Create a budget and savings plan and stick to both of them.

Get enough sleep every night.  An exhausted mind is rarely productive.

Get up 30 minutes earlier so you don’t have to rush around like a mad man.  That 30 minutes will help you avoid speeding tickets, tardiness, and other unnecessary headaches.

Get off your high horse, talk it out, shake hands or hug, and move on.

Don’t waste your time on jealously.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.

Surround yourself with people who fill your gaps.  Let them do the stuff they’re better at so you can do the stuff you’re better at.

Organize your living space and working space.

Get rid of stuff you don’t use.

Ask someone if you aren’t sure.

Spend a little time now learning a time-saving trick or shortcut that you can use over and over again in the future.

Don’t try to please everyone.  Just do what you know is right.

Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs when you’re mad or sad.  Take a jog instead.

Be sure to pay your bills on time.

Fill up your gas tank on the way home, not in the morning when you’re in a hurry.

Use technology to automate tasks.

Handle important two-minute tasks immediately.

Relocate closer to your place of employment.

Don’t steal.

Always be honest with yourself and others.

Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.

Single-task.  Do one thing at a time and give it all you got.

Finish one project before you start another.

Be yourself.

 

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Become the Person You Love.

Here are 6 ways to become the person you love.

1. Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty within you. – Judging yourself is not the same as being honest with yourself.  When it comes to living as a compassionate, non-judgmental human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.  In every smile there is beauty.  In every heart there is love.  In every mind there is wisdom.  In every human being there is a soul, there is life, there is worth, and there is the ability to see all these things in everyone, including one’s self.  

 

2. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. – Accept yourself!  Insecurity is what’s ugly, not you.  Be you, just the way you are, in the beautiful way only you know how.  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  You must love who you are or no one else will either.  And when you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you, but you won’t care about it one bit.

3. Care less about who you are to others. – Don’t lose YOU in your search for acceptance by others.  Be aware that you will always appear to be a little less than some people prefer you to be, but that most people are unaware that you are so much more then what they see.  You are good enough just the way you are.  You have nothing to prove to anyone else.  Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself.

4. Know your worth. – We often accept the love we think we deserve.  It makes no sense to be second in someone’s life, when you know you’re good enough to be first in someone else’s.

5. Don’t rush intimate relationships. – Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.  You don’t need a perfect one, you just need someone who you can trust – who shows you that you’re the only one.  If you haven’t found true love yet, don’t settle.  There is someone out there who will love you unconditionally, even if it’s not the person you were initially hoping for.

6. Let go of those who aren’t really there. – There are certain people who aren’t meant to fit into your life no matter how much you want them to.  And the only ones truly worthy of your love are the ones who stand with you through the hard times and laugh with you after the hard times pass.  Maybe a happy ending doesn’t include anyone else right now.  Maybe it’s just you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself for something better in the future.  Maybe the happy ending is simple letting go.

 

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