1. Let people you love go if they need it. Doing what is best for a person even if it breaks you is what loving someone really is.
2. Forgive people who make valid apologies. Really forgive them. It will help both of you.

3. Not everyone deserves a second chance. Learn who to trust again and who to move on from.
4. Don’t exercise. Do recreational activity. Know that one is about punishing your body for not being naturally what society deems perfect, and the other is about enjoying something that coincidentally involves moving around.

5. Never deny yourself when it comes to food. Eating is not a sin and should never be associated with guilt, greed, or gluttony.
6. Eating is wonderful, delicious, joyous, experimental, strengthening, nourishing, and sociable.
7. Don’t regret any choices that you made. It was exactly what you wanted at that time and your decision would never have been any different. If it turned out badly, use the experience to learn from your mistakes, move forward, and not make them again in the future.

8. Be open and honest, always. Communicate what you are feeling to other people. It makes you look strong, not weak, and it will make your relationships deeper and more solid.
9. Write letters to people that deserve it. Write letters of love. Write letters of thanks. They will be treasured.
10. Read a lot. Always have a book by your bed. It will expand your imagination, teach you new things, and act as a place you can escape to when life is difficult.
11. Listen to people who are sad, and really hear them. Make an effort to genuinely understand them and empathize with the way they are feeling. Help them in ways you would like to be helped.
12. Honor your body. Respond to what it is telling you, always. If it needs fuel, eat. If it is tired, rest. Appreciate your body for keeping you alive even when you treated it like the enemy.

13. If you love someone, tell them. You might not get another opportunity, and you should never let yourself live with a “what if”.
14. Stand up for yourself, and stand up for others. Do not be someone who stays silent in the face of injustice.
15. Travel whenever you can. It is important, exciting, invaluable, and liberating, to explore the world.

16. Live life for yourself. Learn to say yes, and learn to say no.
Don’t ever forget that you are worth a hell of a lot. Cut people out of your life who don’t appreciate that, and hold those close that do.






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Ten Thoughts to Help You Avoid Discouragement


1.  Look at life as a journey and enjoy the ride.  Get the most out of the detours and realize they’re sometimes necessary.

2.  Do your best, but if what you’re doing has caused you discouragement, try a different approach.  Be passionate about the process, but don’t be so attached to the outcome.

3.  Wish the best for everyone, with no personal strings attached.  Applaud someone else’s win as much as you would your own.


4.  Trust that there’s a divine plan, that we don’t always know what’s best for us.  A disappointment now could mean a victory later, so don’t be disappointed.  There is usually a reason.

5.  Ask no more of yourself than the best that you can do, and be satisfied with that.  Be compassionate towards yourself as well as others.  Know your calling, your gift, and do it well.


6.  Don’t worry about something after it’s done; it’s out of your hands then, too late, over!  Learn the lesson and move on.

7.  Have the attitude that no one, except you, owes you anything.  Give without expecting a thank-you in return.  But when someone does something for you, be appreciative of even the smallest gesture.

8.  Choose your thoughts or your thoughts will choose you; they will free you or keep you bound.  Educate your spirit and give it authority over your feelings.


9.  Judge no one, and disappointment and forgiveness won’t be an issue.  No one can let you down if you’re not leaning on them.  People can’t hurt you unless you allow them to.

10.  Love anyway. . . for no reason. . . and give. . . just because.


Donna Fargo




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Forever = till death tears us apart…


You don’t have to have the perfect job, successful career, a house and whatever else you think you need. You don’t have to be fully established to fully commit or get married. You just need to be making progress towards your goals and dreams. One of the wrong things I’ve been taught and so have many is that you have to have be fully independent to build something with someone so whatever each other bring to the table is extra. Well that’s good but it’s being done with a fear that the person may leave so therefore let me have plan B. What happened to building with each other, what happened to depending on each other? 
People don’t see that but it’s no different than guys and girls building something with someone they are interested in yet have talking buddies as back up, it fits in all this side chick, side dude idea. We are quick to make sure to have an open door if things fail making it hard to succeed because failure is always on your mind. 
If I have to get a prenup with the person I’m marrying I’m not marrying them. Love doesn’t have a plan B. Love is we are going to make things work no matter what. I need someone with the same mindset so giving up and running isn’t an option. Even when we aren’t happy. So with the fear of divorce, the fear of being left and a plan B sowed into us by modern society. We can’t help but make sure “we are good” if anything goes wrong. We spend so much time investing our hearts and promising forever only to live as if forever doesn’t exist. (Forever= till death tears us apart). Defeats the purpose. Love becomes a just words and marriage becomes more of a contract than anything else.






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8 mantras that we all should repeat daily…


1.In gratitude lies my blessing- In the heart of thankfulness is a host of blessings waiting for you to seize. Stay filled with a heart of gratitude.

2.  My greatest challenges created my resilience– Challenges have a way of making us aware and teaches us things that we need to learn. I found my resilience in my greatest challenge.

3. I release the need to control the outcome– too much time is spent on controlling a situations outcome release the need and affirm that all is as it should be and always works in your favor.

4. I share my happiness with those around me– Happiness should be shared, you never know you may be saving someone’s life.

5. I will watch my words– words are like sweet honey, or venom. Choose your words wisely and let them be supportive, uplifting, and alluring.

6. My body is my vehicle– your body is to be well kept and filled with all things good. Practice the art of self- love and care.

7. I am enough– Just as I am there is so much value in me. I am more than meets the eye.

8. I am filled with love and compassion– Love is the key to heal our world, and compassion is its sister. The more love and compassion I have the more I am creating an impact in my world.

Today begin to create your personal mantras and learn them, breathe them, and recite them. You are creating a new and improved reality that is filled with all that you desire. Humor me and let me not be the only one who had to rewire her brain and do some massive surgery to create the life that I deem dope, prosperous, fulfilling and beautiful.






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WISH LIST… for my birthday ;)

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Of all the things I wish for you, I would give anything if these wishes could always come true. . . .

I want you to be happy.  I want you to fill your heart with feelings of wonder and to be full of courage and hope.  I want you to have the type of friendship that is a treasure–and the kind of love that is beautiful forever.  I wish you contentment:  the sweet, quiet, inner kind that comes around and never goes away.

I want you to have hopes and have them all come true.  I want you to make the most of this moment in time.  I want you to have a real understanding of how unique and rare you really are.  I want to remind you that the sun may disappear for a while, but it never forgets to shine.  I want you to have faith.  May you have feelings that are shared from heart to heart, simple pleasures amidst this complex world, and wonderful goals that are within your grasp.  May the words you listen to say the things you need to hear.  And may a cheerful face lovingly look back at you when you happen to glance in your mirror.

I wish you the insight to see your inner and outer beauty.  I wish you sweet dreams.  I want you to have times when you feel like singing and dancing and laughing out loud.  I want you to be able to make your good times better and your hard times easier to handle.  I want you to have millions of moments when you find satisfaction in the things you do so wonderfully.  And I wish I could find a way to tell you–in untold ways–how important you are to me.

Of all the things I’ll be wishing for, wherever you are and whatever I may do, there will never be a day in my life when I won’t be wishing for the best. . . for you.

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Happy Birthday <3








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HEARTBREAK is unpreventable; the natural outcome of caring for people and things over which we have no control, of holding in our affections those who inevitably move beyond our line of sight.

Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and inhabits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life.

Heartbreak is our indication of sincerity: in a love relationship, in a work, in trying to learn a musical instrument, in the attempt to shape a better more generous self.

Heartbreak is the beautifully helpless side of love and affection and is just as much an essence and emblem of care as the spiritual athlete’s quick but abstract ability to let go.

Heartbreak has its own way of inhabiting time and its own beautiful and trying patience in coming and going.

Heartbreak is inescapable; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time.

Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time.

But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way… David Whyte











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Always Remember…


  • You are not what happened to you in the past. – No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment.  


  • Not getting what you want can be a blessing. – Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.  Remember, some things in life fall apart so that better things can fall together.


  • Being a ‘work in progress’ is a great state to be in. – Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress.  Start embracing it!  Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today; it means you want a better tomorrow, and you wish to love yourself completely, so you can live your life fully.  It means you’re determined to heal your heart, expand your mind and cultivate the gifts you know you’re meant to share.  May we all be works in progress forever, and celebrate the fact that we are!


  • Nobody else can do it for you. – Keep doing what you know in your heart is right for YOU.  Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words.  Live by choice, not by chance.  Make changes, not excuses.  Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete.  Choose to listen to your inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else.  It’s your road, and yours alone.  Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

1376637_301645769976421_43362737_nLife is not easy, but it’s worth it. – If you expect it to be, you will perpetually disappoint yourself.  Achieving anything worthwhile in life takes effort.  So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before.  Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals.  It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.




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