Patience and Love

21462809_983492918458366_7652811733409153454_n

Patience and Love agreed to meet at a set time and place; beneath the twenty-third tree in the olive orchard. Patience arrived promptly and waited. She checked her watch every so often but still, there was no sign of Love. Was it the twenty-third tree or the fifty-sixth?

She wondered and decided to check, just in case. As she made her way over to the fifty-sixth tree, Love arrived at twenty-three, where Patience was noticeably absent. Love waited and waited before deciding he must have the wrong tree and perhaps it was another where they were supposed to meet.

17757649_1380446712020122_314830192821453329_n

Meanwhile, Patience had arrived at the fifty-sixth tree, where Love was still nowhere to be seen. Both begin to drift aimlessly around the olive orchard, almost meeting but never do.

Finally, Patience, who was feeling lost and resigned, found herself beneath the same tree where she began. She stood there for barely a minute when there was a tap on her shoulder.

images2

It was Love. “Where are you?” She asked.

“I have been searching all my life.”

“Stop looking for me,” Love replied, “and I will find you.”

1610818_400865063398892_4344771157982212_n

431

562379t3lxj4ejfi

729370jif0lvtd3e

Advertisements

Leave a comment »

If he wanted to be with you…

images

It’s a hard pill to swallow. But the truth is going to heal your heart a lot faster than simply letting it break over and over until you finally face what you knew all along anyway:

If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you.

There are a million possible scenarios here. It’s easier when he’s an asshole – selfish, only thinking of himself, using you to make someone else jealous, using you in general, treating you poorly, crushing you thoughtlessly, whatever. But it’s a lot harder when he’s a good guy, and you still have to let him go. When he tells you that you’re an incredible person, but he just doesn’t feel the same way that you do. Or when he really likes you, but doesn’t think you’re the one. Or when he just doesn’t feel as strongly as you do and he wants to be honest. Or when he can’t seem to make up his mind and feels confused, which he doesn’t yet realize just means that he’s afraid of hurting you, that feeling ‘confused’ just a softer way of eventually saying ‘no.’ If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t have had to make up his mind in the first place. It would just be an answer that he felt deeply in his gut.

But regardless, whether he’s a wonderful guy or an asshole or somewhere in between, this is about you, moving on. Because no matter what the situation was, no matter how well he treated you or how much fun you had together or how well you got along, he doesn’t want to be with you. And that’s the truth. And that’s going to be your life raft for the next several weeks or months, no matter how much you don’t want to grab onto it. It is what is going to eventually help you come to peace with the end of your relationship, or the fizzling out of your fling, or the ‘no more talking’ after you guys spent so much time ‘talking.’ It is the truth, and as ugly as it is, it will be the only thing that can help you move on:

If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you.

It’s easy to try to soften the blow. He needs time, or he just needs a little space, or he’s just afraid of commitment and I just need to reassure him, or he builds walls and it’s my job to kick through them.

But think about the way you feel about him. How easy and natural and obvious it feels. How you don’t even need to question whether or not you should be with him, because it just feels right in your veins. How, even if you were scared of committing to someone or getting hurt or opening yourself up, you were still willing to do it, because your heart had already made up your mind. You wanted to be with him, so you were. The decision was simple. It really wasn’t even a decision at all.

Now can you imagine feeling all those things but choosing not to be with him anyway?

That’s why your heart is broken. Because he didn’t feel those things. He didn’t feel that same certainty that you did, deep in your bones. And you can’t change that, and you can’t fix yourself, and there’s nothing you did wrong. It’s just the truth. His heart didn’t make the decision for his brain, because his heart is in a different place from yours. And that really, really sucks. And you just have to accept it. And that sucks even more.

Maybe you’ll get over this in weeks, maybe months. Maybe longer. It will hurt, some days will be horrible and some will be okay. But the smallest of silver linings is this: you can let your heart break once – instead of breaking it a million times by convincing yourself that he’s making a mistake or he probably misses you or you should call him. Love yourself enough to be hard on yourself:

If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you.

Written by Kim Quindlen

l_b4091985e096407d9187a2853cbe8331

Leave a comment »

I no longer need you.

21462809_983492918458366_7652811733409153454_n

I thought it would be painful, letting you go.

I thought I would suffer, that my heart would be anguished with the loss of you. Or worse, maybe it would stop beating altogether.

Maybe without you, I would simply cease to exist.

I thought I would become adrift, for you had been the anchor I had formed my identity upon, the compass I had relied on for my direction. I thought without you I would become lost, disoriented.

I had expected to taste salty tears as they fell upon lips that once spoke so fondly of you; that my head would lay on my pillow damp with tears for as many nights as the moon continued to kiss the stars.

But one day, I just knew.

I hadn’t expected such a feeling of relief as I cut the ropes that once shackled me to you. One instant of tremendous clarity. One instant, where I finally knew.

I no longer needed you.

I no longer needed your opinion of me, your affirmation, your approval.

I no longer needed your judgments, your criticisms, your condemnations.

I no longer needed your expectations I could never meet; your hoops too high to jump through, your goal posts that shifted with every changing breeze.

I no longer needed your blame, your excuses, your justifications.

I no longer needed your pseudo love, fraught with conditions and attached with strings.

I thought I needed you. I didn’t.

I thought it would be hard to let you go. It wasn’t.

I thought I would miss you. I don’t.

For in one instant my heart was awakened to the truth of who I am.

I am more than the lies you made believe about myself. I am more than the look of failure in your eyes when I fell short of your demands. I am more than how worthless you made me feel. I am more than the ways you tried to break me.

I am a warrior, sculpted by the hands of creation, fashioned into being by the very hands that created the oceans and the stars and the mountains and air.

I am strong, I am brave, I am wise. I am gentle of spirit with the heart of a lioness.

I am creative, passionate, sensitive, and kind. I am of open heart and open mind. I am powerful, generous, thoughtful, daring, empathetic, raw, complex, courageous, understanding, forgiving.

I am everything you are not.

I will no longer carry the shame you made me suffer under the weight of.

That shame belongs to you.

And I will no longer carry my hate for you.

For that will only ever bind me to your darkness and give you permission to destroy my light. It will allow you to stay within me, to destroy my peace, to blacken my heart with the malice that lives within you.

It will tie me to your soul-destroying bitterness, your ugliness.

It will anchor me once more to you, who tried to drown me.

Instead, I will choose to go into the world and love more fiercely, show more compassion, be more generous, offer more kindness.

I will choose to forgive. For me, not for you.

I will choose to sow what I wish to see reaped for my children’s future.

I will choose to dis-empower hate.

I will choose freedom.

I will choose love.

I will stand firm upon the unshakeable truth of who I am.

And I will soar to heights you will only ever dream of.

For I have let you go.

No longer am I held down by all I allowed you to be in my life.

I no longer need you.

I am free.

Written by Kathy Parker

431

562379t3lxj4ejfi

 

Comments (1) »

Do it with Passion or Not at all!

This should be a “golden rule” in everything we do, especially business and work. The problem with this is that it is a challenge for a lot of us to have passion because we have spent years of our lives accommodating ourselves to other people’s dreams and passions, or going along with the crowd.

It is in that manner that I want to encourage you to:

21149900_976759759131682_2512611692757002913_n

Dream – So many people stop dreaming because life is taking a toll. You should never stop dreaming because it is the gift that makes you an extraordinary visionary.

20992918_976757725798552_8068133512257237503_n
Risk – Don’t play it safe, get out of your comfort zone. Playing it safe will never allow you to be set apart.

21105550_976815559126102_2471831985431979764_n
Care – There has to be a method to your madness. Paying attention to details and ensuring that what you do you is sincere and not just to earn another dollar, creates authenticity. People can tell the difference.

21077601_976728069134851_6107399791631094327_n
Expect – Nothing is impossible with God! You have to have a sense of expectancy that whatever you do is going to reap the result that you set out for it to do. Mainly, you need to be your biggest advocate. No one will believe in you if you do not believe in yourself.

729370jif0lvtd3e

431

562379t3lxj4ejfi

Leave a comment »

IN THE HANDS OF MAN

He who creates a poison, also has the cure.
He who creates a virus, also has the antidote.
He who creates chaos, also has the ability to create peace.
He who sparks hate, also has the ability to transform it to love.
He who creates misery, also has the ability to destroy it with kindness.
He who creates sadness, also has the ability to to covert it to happiness.
He who creates darkness, can also be awakened to produce illumination.
He who spreads fear, can also be shaken to spread comfort.
Any problems created by the left hand of man,
Can also be solved with the right,
For he who manifests anything,
Also has the ability to
Destroy it.

20375855_959076870899971_7346643355812528981_n

729370jif0lvtd3e431

562379t3lxj4ejfi

Leave a comment »

A minute for peace…

18952988_925714140902911_2070039353585764199_n

Saying a prayer can be as simple as thinking positive thoughts about someone—it’s not an act that needs to be tied to any particular religion or system of beliefs.

I can say a prayer just by saying “I wish you peace” after someone becomes angry with me for something trivial;
I can say a prayer for the woman who is always cheerful (or gloomy) at the store where I shop by thinking “I wish you all the best in life—good health, good relationships, and all of your true needs fulfilled.”

Of course, if you want to pray to God in the form in which you conceive of God, that’s fine, too—and your prayer will not be wasted.

Think about it. Is the world a better place when you walk away from someone either forgetting them immediately or thinking negative thoughts about them?

This world of ours can use all the positive thoughts we can contribute to it, and our simple and heartfelt prayers are some of the most positive thoughts we can create and share.

And they affect us as much as, if not more than, they affect the objects of our prayers.

431

562379t3lxj4ejfi

729370jif0lvtd3e

 

Leave a comment »

Bless Today: It Will Never Come Again

It’s fine to work toward future goals, but don’t forget that today will never come again.  You have only twenty-four hours to enjoy it.

17554406_881271572013835_937199865121974836_n

Instead of waiting to be an old lady to wear purple, wear it now.  Instead of waiting for retirement to live in a beautiful place, consider finding a way to get there now.  When we live our lives in accordance with our dreams, it becomes easy to cheer for other people doing so.  When we don’t, it’s easy to be sour grapes, unsupportive, or jealous when others break free and follow their heart’s desire.

17757649_1380446712020122_314830192821453329_n

If you feel as if your life is somewhere out there as opposed to right here, stop and ask yourself, really ask yourself:

*  What is missing in my life?
*  What have I put on hold?
*  What am I waiting for?
*  What would really fill my heart and make me happy?
*  What would I regret if I died tomorrow?

Though you may not die tomorrow, the saddest death is walking around like a robot, cut off from the magic of today–from love, from beauty, from being where you want to be.

And remember, if all life is sacred, then today is sacred.  Ask yourself, What am I doing to feel joy today?  A wonderful way to start the day is to bless it:

17554116_881257658681893_7006925404156539073_n

Blessings on this day, may I make it special in some way.
Blessings on my life, may I treat it with love and care.
Blessings on all people, may I see the goodness in everyone.
Blessings on nature, may I notice its beauty and wonder.
Blessings on the truth, may it be my constant companion.

562379t3lxj4ejfi

431

l_b4091985e096407d9187a2853cbe8331

Leave a comment »