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TOP 14 Reasons to Celebrate your SINGLENESS THIS VALENTINES DAY

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1. Because you’re so brave, you’d rather walk alone than with someone who is unworthy of you.

2. Because you realize that you are the cake and a relationship is the icing…With or without the icing, a cake is still a cake!

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3. Because you’ve created a life that you love and feel no need to be rescued from.

4. Because you pay your own bills, plan your own day, chart your own path, & make your own way.

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5. Because you love when you’re ready.. not because you’re lonely.

6. Because you live life on your terms… and you don’t apologize.

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7. Because you know that you have to learn to love you before you ask someone  else to.

8. Because “good enough” isn’t good enough for you.

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9. Because you’ve decided that whether or not love ever arrives…. you’re going to thrive.
10. Because your happiness, worth & self-confidence is not dependent on your relationship status.

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11. Because you trust GOD’s perfect timing & you know that  every moment of the wait is preparing you for the one you’ve been waiting for
12. Because for you… settling is not an option.

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13. Because you know it’s no one’s job to complete you, fix you, or validate you. It takes a healthy “me” to create a healthy “we”.
14. Because before you’re ready to wear a diamond… you want to become one.

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When it’s time to let go

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A lot of people regardless of their sign, believe that holding on, infinitely, are signs of love, courage, and strength. But there are times when it takes a lot more strength to realize when it’s time to let go and actually follow through with it. Not every man/woman or thing is meant to be in our lives forever. Once it’s over, Use that down time to reflect and evaluate you and what you need to be happy, think about the relationship as a whole and what you got from it then move on. You can’t make anyone love you or be a part of your life. What is meant to be will always be. But don’t miss out on “THE ONE” because you are too busy dwelling on the maybe’s and what if’s of yesterday.

A great relationship consist of 2 things. Appreciating what you share in common, and respecting each others differences. Never change because it’s what THEY want or think is best for you. Pretending will only make you miserable in the long run. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone used to be than it is to fill the space of who you used to be.

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ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Watch for people who tell you what they think you should hear. A persons actions speaks the whole TRUTH. Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent, and their actions never match up with their words, it might be time to let them go. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. Pay attention because people will reveal themselves slowly!

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Being hurt is something you can’t stop from happening, but being miserable is always your choice. The only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the “buts” you use today. Things always turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.

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Forget how you feel and remember what you deserve. Big challenges prepare ordinary people for extraordinary success. Every struggle arises for a reason – either for experience or as a lesson. A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it. The best thing you can do in most situations is to follow your intuition. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing good will ever happen.

Realize that it’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken either. Sometimes it’s about starting over and creating something brand new. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Sometimes growing stronger means growing apart from old habits, relationships, and circumstances, and finding something different that truly moves you – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning. That’s what LIVING is all about. Don’t just settle for the default settings in life, when you can customize absolutely everything.

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Holding on to what’s no longer there holds too many of us back. Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting the past and letting it steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let it GO! You must accept the end of something in order to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere. Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain. You will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time. So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of a new beginning.

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If you feel like you need to let something go, but you simply haven’t been able to do so, know that you’re not alone. Accepting what is, letting go, and moving on are skills that all of us must learn when facing the realities of life, but these are also skills that take time to master. And today we challenge you to put in a little time…

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#listeningtomyheartnotmymind!

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It’s finally over, he broke up with you.
After promising each other countless times that you will never give up on each other finally it all caved in.
Heartbroken you feel broken.
Words can’t put together how disappointed and painful this is.
But you can’t let him see how devastated you are.
You go an act as if everything is okay, played it so well you deserve an Oscar.
To give your facade more credibility, you start to hang with Oscar the guy you told him you’d never date.
You want him to see you happy with a possible candidate If not more
You want to hurt him in revenge, show him you settled for him and could’ve done better
But you didn’t and it’s over with
You don’t see how you’re just prolonging your hurt.
Instead of dealing with the pain you spend most of your time hiding it
Instead of working on yourself, you spend time picking out who you will look best with to piss off your ex
Instead of falling in love with you, you fall into a relationship with no potential
You later on convince yourself that you fell in love when you really found someone who caught you when you were tripping.
Still in pain, still haven’t moved on mentally now you’re jumping from relationships to relationships trying to forget that ex.
When you finally stop trying this so called love race, you finally look back and see how much pain you’ve added to that pain.
Now consumed by inflicted pain, all you can can conclude to is, LOVE IS VAIN

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June thoughts…

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It’s easy to feel uncared for when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it’s so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles, and anxiety that the thought of asking someone else how they’re doing doesn’t even cross their mind. They aren’t inherently bad or uncaring — they’re just busy and self-focused. And that’s okay. It’s not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part. It doesn’t make you unlovable or invisible. It just means that those people aren’t very good at looking beyond their own world. But the fact that you are — that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others — is a strength. Your work isn’t to change who you are; it’s to find people who are able to give you the connection you need. Because despite what you feel, you are not too much. You are not too sensitive or too needy. You are thoughtful and empathetic. You are compassionate and kind. And with or without anyone’s acknowledgment or affection, you are enough. – Daniell Koepke

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If you’re laying in bed wrapped up in sheets of miserable thought, go to sleep.
If thumbing through old messages only cause your heart to ache and long for something unattainable, erase them.
If it hurts to keep everything you’re feeling bottled up inside, let it out.
If you’re clinging onto someone that doesn’t treat you like you’re worth the world, let them go
Because sometimes we choose to believe that things are only indistinguishable shades of gray when in reality, life is more black and white than it seems.
If you’re unhappy with the way you are living your life,
Change it…..

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It’s such a scary thing giving your heart to someone, because you never know what they’re going to do with it. Let alone, what they’re really doing behind closed doors… The mind is the most private place in the entire world and you’re never going to know what’s going on inside someone’s head, unless they truthfully tell you. So in order to make things work, people need to learn self control first and train their brain to fight temptation before they even think about being in a committed relationship. Discipline may seem painful to some, but later on brings peace to those who are well trained. There is no better luxury than being safe with the person you love. Especially when this person has the ability to break your heart in seconds, but instead chooses to protect. – Melissa Molomo.

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Welcoming year of the SNAKE, In 2013…

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  1. In 2013 you better not be complaining about men & how sorry men are. You better be evaluating yourself, making changes & better decisions.

  2. In 2013 you better not Talk about some “New year new me” and been doing the same damn thing for the past 6 years!

  3. In 2013 you better not run back to the person who emotionally wrecked you in 2012. Leave it behind.

  4. In 2013 you better not remind me of the mistakes i made in 2012

  5. In 2013 you better not go through the same pain with the same person. If they didn’t make you better, let them go & find someone who does.

  6. In 2013 you better not bully anyone, think you’re better than everyone else, or intentionally hurt someone physically/mentally.

  7. In 2013 you better not be saying ” Dear 2013, please be nice with me “

  8. In 2013 you better not be thinking that Ted Mosby will be anywhere close to telling us who his wife is. (hahaha. How I Met your Mother)

  9. In 2013 you better not be looking for a new Mayan prediction. The world isn’t ending. Get over it.

  10. In 2013 you better not “LIE” but you should try to be better than you are now.

  11. In 2013 you should never take things for granted. Appreciate good health, family & those who surround you with love.

  12. In 2013 never judge anyone because everyone is struggling with their own problems and in a split second they could be gone.

  13. In 2013 don’t go a mile for someone who wouldn’t go an inch for you.

  14. In 2013 I will not get upset every time someone doesn’t like me. It’s a waste of time to worry about it.

  15. In 2013 never depend too much on anyone in this world. At the end of the day, you only have yourself.

  16. In 2013 pursue what drives your curiosity. There’s good in all bad. Be nice to those who ignore you. Appreciate second chances.

  17. In 2013 I will never give second chance cause they don’t change, they just get better at lying.

  18. In 2013 I need to be patient. My time will come. And all the things I’m working towards & praying for will come at the right time

  19. In 2013 follow your dreams and work hard because anything can happen when you put your mind to it.

  20. In 2013  I’m going to get serious with someone and know their real intentions from the beginning .602934_456857117694639_552047860_nlifewithoutfrnship 431 562379t3lxj4ejfi

 

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I learned this 2012 …

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  1. I learned this 2012 that everyday’s a chance for you to correct your wrongs. =) Everyday you can improve some more!

  2. I learned this 2012 that when you think too much about it… you mess up more.

  3. I learned this 2012 that I’m actually a very emotional person & that I just have to accept it…cause suppressing it will never work!

  4. I learned this 2012 to be more PATIENT yet ANTICIPANT for change because patience is a virtue but time is gold!

  5. I learned this 2012 that at the end of the day, I have myself to love better than anybody else.

  6. I learned this 2012 not to attach myself to people too much. People do not always stay 🙂 they come, they go..

  7. I learned this 2012 it’s not too late to fulfill ur dreams. Even when they’re pushed back or you’re hindered, persevere!

  8. I learned this 2012 living solo teaches you a lot more about life and how to deal and make it exciting!

  9. I learned this 2012 that some people will drain your patience out, & all you can do is to hold on to the little patience you have left.

  10. I learned this 2012 that U don’t have to mind what other people say.it’s YOU who knows WHO U really R

  11. I learned this 2012 that everyday’s a chance for you to correct your wrongs. =) Everyday you can improve some more!

  12. I learned this 2012 That never stop learning, because life never stops teaching

  13. I learned this 2012 I’m not getting any younger, might as well enjoy life and grow responsible at the same time.

  14. I learned this 2012 that self preservation should come first, before anything

  15. I learned this 2012 that every action we do have its own consequences, regardless if it’s in a good way or not.

  16. I learned this 2012 don’t stick in one circle of friends Make Two or more circle of friends. It will make you happy 🙂

  17. I learned this 2012 that there is never a right time to say goodbye

  18. I learned this 2012 not everyone deserves your Trust & you should know what to hold and what to let go.

  19. I learned this 2012 that even though you’re single, you still get hurt.

  20. I learned this 2012 not to give too much (time, effort) to sum1 hu doesn’t deserve it! 🙂  choices that were done coz of impulsion’s are bad.562379t3lxj4ejfi l_b4091985e096407d9187a2853cbe8331 431 729370jif0lvtd3e

 

 

 

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Let’s make things simple again.

Over the course of time, we made our lives more and more difficult, and we started losing touch with who we really are and what we really need.

So let’s get back to the basics, shall we?  Let’s make things simple again.  It’s easy.  Here are some ways to do just that:

Life is not complex.  We are complex.  Life is simple,
and the simple thing is the right thing.
– Oscar Wilde

Don’t try to read other people’s minds.  Don’t make other people try to read yours.  Communicate.

Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you.  Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.

Your health is your life, keep up with it.  Get an annual physical check-up.

Live below your means.  Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.  Always sleep on big purchases.  Create a budget and savings plan and stick to both of them.

Get enough sleep every night.  An exhausted mind is rarely productive.

Get up 30 minutes earlier so you don’t have to rush around like a mad man.  That 30 minutes will help you avoid speeding tickets, tardiness, and other unnecessary headaches.

Get off your high horse, talk it out, shake hands or hug, and move on.

Don’t waste your time on jealously.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.

Surround yourself with people who fill your gaps.  Let them do the stuff they’re better at so you can do the stuff you’re better at.

Organize your living space and working space.

Get rid of stuff you don’t use.

Ask someone if you aren’t sure.

Spend a little time now learning a time-saving trick or shortcut that you can use over and over again in the future.

Don’t try to please everyone.  Just do what you know is right.

Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs when you’re mad or sad.  Take a jog instead.

Be sure to pay your bills on time.

Fill up your gas tank on the way home, not in the morning when you’re in a hurry.

Use technology to automate tasks.

Handle important two-minute tasks immediately.

Relocate closer to your place of employment.

Don’t steal.

Always be honest with yourself and others.

Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.

Single-task.  Do one thing at a time and give it all you got.

Finish one project before you start another.

Be yourself.

 

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