Archive for March, 2013
Do you ever feel like life is spinning out of control? That the harder you try to get ahead the more you just barely get by? If so, maybe it’s time for you to think about quitting life — that elusive thing that we chase after and strive for — and, instead, start living.
It can be a difficult distinction to understand, I know, but making the distinction can make all the difference in the world. So if you’re tired of suffering through and truly want to live, here are 10 tips to get you started!
1. Recognize that life is what you get when you’re born. . .
. . . Living is what you do with it!
You can sit back and wait for life to happen to you or you can make it happen yourself. As Maya Angelou once said, “Life likes to be taken by the lapel and told, “I’m with you kid. Let’s go!”
2. Define life. . . It leads to the fine life.
Life is not a slogan, no matter what Nike, McDonald’s, ABC, NBC, or any other media giant might have you believe. While those “Life is. . .” t-shirts are often witty, the philosophy they propose, like the shirt itself, are rarely “one size fits all.” Define life and living on your own terms and you’ve a better chance of getting both.
3. Make up your own rules.
Many people believe that “life is a game.” Maybe so, but most games have rules and clear-cut definitions of winning and losing. We didn’t get rule books when we were born, and that leaves us free to make up our own rules about life, living, losing, and winning.
4. Take charge of your life.
Once you’ve made up your rules you can start taking charge of your life. And when you take charge of your life, as Geoffrey Abert said, “There is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life.”
5. Little things mean a lot.
No matter how we live, life throws a lot of little negative things in our way that must be dealt with or else they will greatly diminish how we enjoy our days. Stephen Vincent Benet said it best: “Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.”
6. Employ the power of positive quitting.
Most of us view quitting as a negative thing to do, but it’s not. “Winners never quit,” we’re told. In reality, winners quit all the time by choosing to stop doing things that aren’t creating the results they desire.
7. Create your personal quit list.
Examine your life closely and you’ll find all sorts of things you do and/or tolerate that hold you back, slow you down, or effect you negatively in some other way. Decide which ones you really want to be rid of and write them down.
8. On your mark, get set, QUIT!
Now start quitting the things you listed. Doing so will immediately create a positive “charge” in your life as you rid yourself of these negatives and create the room in your life for new, more positive experiences.
9. Charge into your future!
As you recreate this positive force in your life, take big, massive leaps into your future. Be imaginative, bold, and brave! The results may surprise you.
10. Use everything.
You are blessed with a particular set of skills and talents that no one else has. Use every skill and talent to live your life as joyfully and abundantly as possible. Leave this life as Erma Bombeck wished to: “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.'”
People never do anything that is out of character.They may do things that go against your expectations,but what people do reveals exactly who they are. Never have expectations on people other than the expectations that they will be exactly who they are.Who they are is not what they say nor what you have come to expect, it is who they reveal themselves to be.
Be honest.Kiss those you love.Say ”thank you”, ”I love you” and ”great job” to someone each day.Love your life and what you have been given, it is not accidental-search for your purpose and do it the best you can.Dreaming does matter-it allows you to become that which you aspire to be.Forgive-it frees the soul!Recognize the special people you’ve been blessed to know.
Surround yourself with those who make you happy, those who make you better,and those who would help you in the time of need.These are the people who never take advantage of you and genuinely care about your well being.They are the ones worth keeping in your life.Everyone else is just passing through.
Learning to hold your tongue at the right moment, at the right time, could be the very thing that saves a meaningful relationship. When you’re upset, the thing that you’d like to say about or to that person is not true.This is nor easy, but patience is a fruit of the spirit.
At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone-that the only next possible step is to stop pursuing them-to leave them alone and walk away.It’s not like you’re giving up, and it’s not like you shouldn’t try to a certain point.It’s just that you have to distinguish determination from desperation.What is truly yours will eventually be yours with a reasonable amount of effort,and what is not yours, no matter how hard you try, never will be.
It’s always too early to quit. You must continue breathing, even if it’s just a series of short, shallow breaths. Continue putting forth even the smallest efforts to sustain your dreams. Accept the fact that if you fight through the challenges, there is always a chance you might lose, but if you do not fight at all, you have already lost.