Archive for May, 2010

Love Rules for Single Women

“Guys are like subway trains. Don’t run after them; another one is on its way.”

“If he says he isn’t ready for a relationship, believe him.”

“Marry someone you want to sit next to for the rest of your life.”

“My grandfather had some gems: ‘Don’t be with a stupid man just to be with any man.’

‘A real man always takes care of his family.’ ‘You don’t want to be walked over,

and you don’t want a man you can walk over, either.’

And my favorite: ‘Don’t be a fool, Michelle.

You can be anything you want, but don’t be a fool.’”

“Don’t trust anyone who doesn’t laugh.”

“The guys who were nerdy in high school make the best husbands.”

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”

“You can tell a lot about a guy by how he treats your cab driver.”

“If he likes you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be ‘confused.’”

“Respect yourself. I said to my ex, ‘I’m not going to make you my everything if I’m only your something.’”

“I used to be into bad boys but kept getting burned. Then I heard this: ‘

Say no to the guys you usually say yes to,

and yes to the ones you normally say no to.’

I did, and it totally worked. I have a great husband now.

“Never marry a man who has no friends.”

“Never tattoo a guy’s name on your body!”

“Personal hygiene is part of the package.”

“It’s OK to show up at a guy’s house with a dozen roses and

declare your undying affection.

It’s OK to have too much to drink and call your ex 20 times

and then to be mortally embarrassed when you realize

your number must have shown up on his caller ID.

It’s OK, because making a fool of yourself for love is

ultimately about you, how much you have to give and

the distances you will travel to keep your heart wide open

when everything around you makes you feel like

slamming it shut and soldering it closed.”


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Walk Away

Walk Away

Frederick J. Cowie, Ph.D. 

Walk away

From  gods who demand

thoughtless obedience

Walk  away

From pettiness that will make you petty

Walk  away

From anger that will eat your insides

Walk  away

From abuse which steals your soul

Walk  away

Gaining strength with each stride

Walk  away

Alone, arm-in-arm or in tandem

Walk  away

Yet do not run away in fear

Walk  away

You, first among equals

Walk  away

Holding head high

Walk Away Now

"There are  only two ways 

of spreading light - 

to be the candle 

or  the mirror that reflects it."

Edith Wharton

..Posted With  Blessings, and Love By.....

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Everyday Successes To Celebrate

Love and Kindness

1. Loving people even in their weakest moments and giving them strength. As Marilyn Monroe said, “If you can’t take me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”

2. Forgiving someone instead of holding a grudge which gives them peace of mind. That peace of mind ripples back into the world.

3. Listening just to help someone find their own way when it would be easier to dominate the conversation.

4. Helping someone who can’t offer you anything in return.

5. Noticing someone’s positive efforts that often go unappreciated. Everyone wants to believe they make a difference. Sometimes a little gratitude inspires them to make an even bigger impact.

6. Showing a child through actions how to be a good person. Children learn from what we do more than what we say.

7. Giving someone a book that might change their life. As Mark Twain said, “The man who does not read great books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them.”

8. Forgiving yourself and letting go of the past. You can only love yourself if you cut yourself some slack—and you can only love other people if you love yourself.

9. Taking care of your family’s needs, both physical and emotional. It’s not easy to do both simultaneously and well.

10. Connecting two people whose lives will improve for knowing each other.

Strength and Commitment

11. Acknowledging a mistake and growing through the process

12. Working through it when you’re having a hard day. A lot of people shut down when times get difficult. Whenever you keep going you have every reason to feel proud.

13. Finding joy in your work regardless of your success. In an achievement-oriented society, focusing on the journey and not the outcome is an act of greatness.

14. Putting your heart into your blog, regardless of your readership. Even if only one person learns from your experiences, you’ve made a powerful difference through your words.

15. Staying in the game even when you think you might lose. Sticktoitiveness is an attribute to celebrate. It helps you be the person you want to be regardless of what you accomplish.

16. Honoring a promise when you’re tempted not to keep it.

17. Actually being the person you claim to be, however that translates into action.

18. Comparing yourself to an older version of you instead of other people. There’s no better way to measure your growth and motivate yourself to keep going.

19. Having the strength to walk away from a person or situation that isn’t good for you.

20. Trusting your inner voice instead of letting the world make decisions for you.

21. Understanding instead of arguing. Good for your mental well-being and other people’s, too.

22. Enjoying yourself regardless of what you’ve gotten done. Enjoyment is success.

23. Telling someone else you believe in their potential. You never know what act of greatness you might inspire, however big or small.

24. Taking one small step to fill your life with meaning based on what matters to you. People who live with passion and purpose inspire everyone around them.

25. Keeping an open mind, both to create new possibilities for yourself and to increase your chances of loving and helping people.

26. Doing something that scares you. The more willing you are to take risks, the greater your odds of feeling fulfilled in life. Fulfillment is success.

27. Mentoring someone who’d like to do what you do. When you help someone live their dreams you’re a meaningful part of their happiness.

28. Learning from someone else. Sometimes it’s powerful to be the apprentice and not the expert

29. Opening your world to new people. No one is an island. Every time you open your world to someone else, you create the possibility of inspiring and being inspired.

30. Creating. Music, poetry, jewelry, movies, websites, buildings—anything you create is a gift to the world.

As always, I haven’t created a thorough list. This is just the beginning. Reach out! What minor success have you celebrated or noticed today?

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I Asked God…

I Asked God... 

I  asked God to take away my pain.

God said, No.

'It is not  for me to take away,

but for you to give it up.'

I asked  God to make

my handicapped child whole.

God said, No.

'Her  spirit was whole,

her body was only temporary.'

I  asked God to grant me patience.

God said, No.

'Patience  is a byproduct of tribulations;

it isn't granted, it is earned.'

I  asked God to give me happiness.

God said, No.

'I give you  blessings. 

Happiness is up to you.'

I asked God to spare  me pain.

God  said, No.

'Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares

and  brings you closer to me.'

I asked God to make my spirit grow.

God  said, No.

'You must grow on your own, 

but I will prune  you to make you fruitful.'

I asked God for all things

that  I might enjoy life.

God  said, No.

'I will give you life

so that you may enjoy all  things.'

I asked God to help me love others, 

as much as  he loves me.

God said...

'Ahhhh, finally you have the  idea.'

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