Archive for August, 2012

TIDBITS Thoughts :)

Know your worth! When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back. There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there. Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them. Let them leave your life quietly. Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on. We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do. Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”

Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life. Either way there’s a positive outcome. Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do. In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you. And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.

 

 

Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance. It’s about what you live for. It’s about what defines you. It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique. It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly. It’s about those little quirks that make you, you. People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever. But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.

 

Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us. We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love is all about – freedom. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.

 

 

 

 

Divert your mind on something else when anything happened in your past bothers you. Sometimes its not possible for you to change things. All you can do is change yourself and focus on different aspects of life. Work life is different than living life with your family. Don’t mix both. Give time to your dear ones. Try to find happiness from within and not from external sources. Be calm, peaceful and enjoy your company. Be your own friend and appreciate all the good and bad qualities you possess. Don’t praise yourself in front of others, but constantly in your mind. If you finish any work don’t expect others to praise you. You are getting better and better day by day. Be proud of you for how you performed and always feel like you are a legend.

Our expectations will betray us more than anyone or anything will. Learn to accept more, expect less, extract the truth of what is and escape the negative emotional reaction to what isn’t. Stay busy making what u need a reality and waste no time in fruitless unproductive criticism of others. Action is the loudest clearest voice there is. We are responsible for what we want, no one else is. It is wise to expect more of ourselves and less of others. Be our own solutions and spend less energy on resentment.

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T-R-U-S-T

When we’re feeling unsatisfied with our lives, our first inclination is to compare where we’re at to where everyone else is.

We wonder if we’re too far behind or too far ahead.

We place judgement on the choices we’ve made and fixate on what we “should have done instead”.

We worry about what everyone else must be thinking of us.

And we question whether who we are and what we’re doing is enough.

Ultimately however, making comparisons doesn’t help us to feel fulfilled.

If anything, it makes us feel more inadequate and unsure of ourselves.

The reality we often forget is that there is no one correct path in life.

Everyone has their own unique journey.

A path that’s right for someone else won’t necessarily be a path that’s right for you.

Your path isn’t right or wrong, or good or bad.

It’s just different.

And it’s that differentness that makes you who you are and adds to the beauty and diversity of life.

It’s important to remember that life isn’t a race.

There’s no such thing as falling behind because there’s no set destination.

Everyone travels at their own pace.

Where you’re at and the rate at which you’re progressing is not something that can be compared.

Your journey isn’t mean to look like anyone else’s because you aren’t like anyone else.

You’re a person all your own with a life all your own.

So stop comparing, and start living.

You may not have ended up where you intended to go.

But trust, for once, that you have ended up where you needed to be.

Trust that you are in the right place at the right time.

Trust that nothing is missing.

Trust that your life is enough.

Trust that you are enough.

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Happy Thoughts 2 Ponder :))

 

Here are a few happy thoughts to ponder on those days when the whole world seems like it’s crashing down around you.

1. Down days are completely normal, and not something you should feel guilty about having. Happiness is never constant. Surrendering to your sadness, or whatever negative emotion is trying to come to the surface, does not make you a bad person. But remember, if you aren’t sincerely thankful for every smile, don’t be totally shocked by every tear. Keep things in perspective.

2. When you are at your lowest point, you are open to the greatest positive change. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the strength to deal with them. Strength doesn’t come from what you can do; it comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t do.

3. There is a huge difference between giving up and moving on. Moving on doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are some things that cannot be. Moving on can mean that you’re making a choice to be happy rather than hurt. For some folks, good situations last a lifetime, but for many, not knowing when to move on can hold them back forever.

4. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you still have an opportunity to make it great. You have to do what you can, with what you have, exactly where you are. It won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it in the end. Remember that there is no perfect life, just perfect moments. And it’s these moments you must cherish; it’s these moments that make the whole journey worthwhile.


5. Most people ask for happiness on condition, but long-term happiness can only be felt if you don’t set conditions. Accept life unconditionally. Realize that life balances itself between the ideal and the disappointing. And the disappointments are just life’s way of saying, “I’ve got something better for you right around the corner.” So be patient, live life, accept what is, and have a little faith.

6. Too often, we carry around things from our past that hurt us – regrets, shame, anger, pain, etc. Don’t let these negative points from the past rob your present happiness. You had to live though these things in the past, and although unfortunate, they can’t be changed. But if the only place they live today is in your mind, then let go, move on, and be happy.

7. You can choose to view things differently. Pick one part of your life that you are unhappy with and look at it from a different point of view. See the rain as nourishment for future growth. Consider being alone for a while to create the solitude you need to hear your inner voice. Think of your lack of funds as an opportunity to experience the simple things in life. Right now, you can choose to allow the light to shine in your life. It is a choice. Why not allow it?

8. Once you embrace unpleasant news, not as a negative but as evidence of a need for positive change, you’re learning from it and growing. Whatever life throws at you, even if it hurts, be strong and fight through it. Remember, strong walls shake but never collapse. Life always offers you another chance – it’s called tomorrow.

9. When your flaws are stitched together with good intentions, your flaws make you beautiful. It’s better to be true to yourself and risk being ridiculed by others, than to be false, and miss out on the beauty of being YOU. Never be bullied into silence. Never let someone else tell you who you are. Accept no one’s definition of your life, except your own.

10. You have the ability to heal yourself. Just like lava flowing slowly out of a volcano, you must create a healthy outlet for your pain and anger. It’s important after you’ve been hurt to take some time to think about your pain, and address it calmly and consciously, so you can thwart the possibility of more pain brewing from your own negativity.

11. There’s a lot of life left to be lived. The real tragedy in life is not death, but the passion we let die inside of us while we still live. Remember, troubles from the past cannot define you, destroy you, or defeat you all by themselves. As long as you keep pushing forward, they can only strengthen you.


12. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once. Today is a brand new day – a fresh start. Replace negativity with positivity. Think happy thoughts. Exercise. Drink lots of water. Fill your body with fuel. Healthy is happy. Inspire yourself. Create. Laugh. Play. Love. Learn. Give someone a compliment. Perform a random act of kindness. Take a chance on an idea you believe in. You have the opportunity to do these things every single day – to make the necessary changes and slowly become the person you want to be. You just have to decide to do it. Decide that today is the day. Say it: “This is going to be my day !….”

 

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