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…….just a thought about relationships…

It’s sad to say but I’ve never known love in a relationship with a man, only disappointment and hurt. I am so tired. I’ve recognized my fallback girl qualities or to put it another way, (being 2nd best). I’ve gone to therapy, I engage in positive affirmations and I get involved in really living my life…and now I find myself not wanting to be in a relationship with a man. I rarely find one who isn’t… an Ass. Usually in the first couple of dates I recognize the pattern and get the hell out. It’s interesting that I am no longer fascinated by men. They seem soooo superficial. It gets lonely sometimes, as a woman of 30 wanting male companionship is healthy (as my therapist told me) but I’d rather be alone and sane, happy and whole than deal with the heart breaking, mind-altering crap these men bring to one’s life. I still have hope sometimes that a decent emotionally available man will come into my life. In the meantime, I continue to work on me and find happiness and companionship where I can. Peace and love ♥

Be real. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck, it is a duck. Hanging some lovehearts, a card, a dinner, a gift, some sex, or whatever it is off someone who is unworthy of your time doesn’t change the fact that they’re unworthy of your time. If someone doesn’t value you, it’s a sign that you need to move on. Know your value irrespective of who you’re with – it’ll ensure… that you don’t keep yourself in bad company and you’ll keep your feet firmly in reality. Tempting as it is to get lost in illusions, you will not get a real relationship with someone who is real if you persist. This is why it is important to be authentic so you can have authentic relationships. If you pretend, it’s a disrespect to yourself and potentially also to them. If you’re not treating yourself with love, care, trust and respect and wondering why someone can’t love you for you, look a bit closer to home and make sure you are being you.

Don’t look at being single as that annoying time that passes between crappy relationships. Yeah you’re not in a relationship but at least you’re not in an illusionary one with someone dodgy. Get on with life and enjoy living because being personally secure and not losing your mind over your relationship status will prevent you from operating out of a negative place. Don’t write yourself off – have faith that there is better out there for you and that in the meantime, you’re going to treat you as you want to be treated. In the meantime, tomorrow is a new day, and don’t disregard your feelings. If you want to cry, cry, and then get back up. You’re human, you love, and you want to be loved, but make sure you don’t have a desperate urge to be loved – it attracts ‘desperate’ types of people that exploit your own lack of self-love.

If you spend a lot of time thinking about an old relationship or an ex, or instead, focus on berating yourself, you’re stealing time from you and focusing your energy on the wrong things. Likewise, if you’ll place your bets on other people instead of taking a leap of faith on yourself, you won’t act in your own best interests. You can’t go forward if you’re not getting on with living the life you’…re in now because you’re trying to hold on to something that has already passed by and was potentially making you miserable.

Keep challenging yourself to be honest. Keep challenging yourself to see things as they are instead of how you thought they were, or how you’d like them to be. Ask yourself what your part is in things, not because you should be blaming yourself, but because we are all accountable for where we are, especially when we keep finding ourselves in the same patterns. Ask yourself what you don’t want to think or talk about – and then think and talk about it. Ask yourself what you’ve been avoiding doing and evaluate whether you should actually be doing it. Be willing to hear and be willing to ask the uncomfortable questions that prevent you from getting lost in illusions.

Treat yourself like a valuable friend who you trust to act in your best interests, even though it means that at times you’ll make uncomfortable decisions that work in the favour of the greater good of yourself. Wake up! Many of us are sleeping on the job – coasting through life, letting life and relationships ‘happen’ to us and thinking that it must be ‘fate’ and what we want. We’re relying on staying as we are and hoping that life turns in our favour. Raise the alarm, set it, and keep setting it every day because if you want something different to what you’ve had, you’ve got to live life differently and be different to what you’ve been. That doesn’t mean fundamentally changing who you are – it’s recognising that relationship insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results.

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I Promise Myself…

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You are …

You are strong ..
when you take your grief and teach it to smile.

You are brave ..
when you overcome your fear and help others
to do the same.

You are happy ..
when you see a flower and are thankful
for the blessing.

You are loving ..
when your own pain does not blind you to the
pain of others.

You are wise ..
when you know the limits of your wisdom.

You are true ..
when you admit there are times you
fool yourself.

You are alive ..
when tomorrow’s hope means more to you than
yesterday’s mistake.

You are growing ..
when you know what you are but not what you
will become.

You are free ..
when you are in control of yourself and do not wish
to control others.

You are honorable ..
when you find your honor is to honor others.

You are generous ..
when you can take as sweetly as you can give.

You are humble ..
when you do not know how humble you are.

You are thoughtful ..
when you see me just as I am and treat me
just as you are.

You are merciful ..
when you forgive in others the faults you condemn
in yourself.

You are beautiful ..
when you don’t need a mirror to tell you.

You are rich ..
when you never need more than what you have.

You are you ..
when you are at peace with who you are not.



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Thanks 2 U!

Today is my birthday, and I’m getting older,

hopefully, another year wiser.

So kunwari serious ako...well,

God has been so good to me for the past few years.

He has blessed me with so much.

I'm not sure if you'll believe me but starting today,

I won't ask anything for myself.

Di ko na kelangan humingi kasi He knows

the desires of my heart and He'll give it to me

in His time. Shocking! Ganito ba talaga pag tumatanda?

Nagiging spiritual na? Hahaha..

So, allow me to make a humble thank you message;

For all the people who remembered me and wrote in my wall in

Facebook, Friendster, MySpace at sa Blog ko..

For those who left messages everywhere and bothered.

For those wonderful friends who chatted and lingered.

For those who texted me and called.

You who took time out from your otherwise busy day,

You who stopped awhile, left me a message and did say,

My dear friend, I wish you a very “Happy Birthday”!

SOOOOOOOWEET!

Sa mga hindi ko ine-expect na babatiin ako..

SUPERBLY, thank you!

It’s a friend like you who make my birthdays happier

to appreciate life, count my blessings and

remember what I’ve always been told –

That friends come and go, in myriad colors,

shapes and sizes and add meaning to your existence.

These friends I speak of may be actual or virtual.

They maybe new or old.  I might not see them now

in the flesh, never did so, and probably never would.

But the thought of their very existence is

enough to put a smile in my face,

Thank you for your greetings, dear friends

who I value greatly.

That every message you send me, moving swiftly and securely,

Aided by the wonders of technology,

From the farthest continents, across the

seas of whatever country or territory –

is treasured, never forgotten,

forever appreciated and cherished as priceless

By someone whose natal day has been made

special by your warmest greetings and

wonderful wishes! Once again thank you!

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The Road of Life

It can be a funny thing as we travel on this train called life.

Happiness may seem to be a hard thing to achieve at times

but it is never impossible. There are so many events in

each of our lives that can be a learning experience.

I have learned never to judge a person upon a first encounter.


Different people have different baggage; you never know

when you may meet a person on a bad day.

Never leave a love one with cross words or on a bad note.

Not only do you risk the chance of never seeing this person

again the conscience-..stricken feelings you are left

with are practically unbearable.


I have come to believe the most beautiful sound in the

world is the laughter of a small child. There is not one

sound that is more innocent and full of hope, life and possibilities.

Always love what you do as you work your way through life.

Life is much too short to be stuck in a mundane job that

you hate to go to everyday. You can choose to spend your

time doing something you love or waste it and in the end have nothing.


Through trials and tribulations,

I have learned you can love someone with all of your heart

and they will never, ever love you back.

I have also found along this journey that the best love is

developed from true friendship. Being able to love the

person you call your best friend is a miracle within itself.


In anger, you may find words that hurt others

on the edge of your tongue. The best place for those

words is left on the tongue. Once spoken, words can

never be taken back, much less forgotten.

Learning to forgive is one of the greatest strength

a person can develop. It is never easy to forgive and almost

impossible to forget, being able to go down the road less

traveled will take discipline but is very much worth the ride.

I have discovered many times the ones you love and

depend on most will hurt you. It may not be intentionally,

but it will happen. Trust takes a long time to build and

only a matter of seconds to destroy.

I have determined that in most cases it is best to mind

your own business. You never know when the information

you learn will change your life forever.


We fall in and out of love but as bad as you may feel at times,

you will not die of a broken heart. Life will take many turns.

Some ups and some downs, we must always remember to be

true to ourselves. Only you can make yourself happy.

Remember, Stand up for the things you believe in,

stand by those you love and always be true to yourself.


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Life Without Stress

Life  Without Stress

That we live in an extremely stressful environment

is  abundantly evident.  However, stress is nothing new -

 it's been  around since the beginning. Robert Louis

Stevenson made these  suggestions over 100 years ago:

 Make up your mind to be  happy -

learn to find pleasure in simple things.



 Make the best of circumstances.

No  one has everything and everyone

 has something of sorrow.



 Don't take yourself too seriously.



 Don't let criticism worry you -

you  can't please everybody.

Don't let your neighbors set  your standards -

be yourself.



 Do things you enjoy doing but stay out of  debt.



 Don't borrow trouble. Imaginary things

are harder to bear than  actual ones.



 Since hate poisons the soul,

don't  cherish enmities and grudges.

Avoid people who make you unhappy.



 Have many interests. If you can't travel,

read  about places.



 Don't hold post-mortems or spend time

 brooding over sorrows and mistakes.



Don't be the one who never gets over  things.



Keep busy at something.

A very busy  person never has

 time to be unhappy.



Times haven't changed -

Relax and  have a wonderful day!

Today and all days-

Always - in all  ways!




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Words to Live By

Words to Live By



 


Anger is a condition in which

he tongue works faster than the mind.


You can’t change the past, but you can ruin

the present by worrying over the future.


Love ……and you shall be loved.


All people smile in the same language.


A hug is a great gift..one size fits all.

It can be given for any occasion and

it’s easy to exchange.








Everyone needs to be loved…

especially when they do not deserve it.


The real measure of a man’s wealth is

what he has invested in love.


Laughter is Love’s sunshine.


Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it.


It’s important for parents to live the same things they teach.


If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday

and the worries of tomorrow,

you have no today to be thankful for.








Happy memories never wear out….

relive them as often as you want.


Home is the place where we grumble the most,

but are often treated the best.


The choice you make today

will usually affect tomorrow.


Take time to laugh for it is the music of the soul.


If anyone speaks badly of you,

live so no one will believe it.


Patience is the ability to idle your motor

when you feel like stripping your gears.


Love is strengthened by working

through conflicts together.








The best thing parents can do for

their children is to love each other.


Harsh words break no bones

but they do break hearts.


To get out of a difficulty,

one usually must go through it.


We take for granted the things

that we should be giving thanks for.


Love is the only thing that can be

divided without being diminished.

Happiness is enhanced by others

but does not depend upon others.


You are richer today if you have

laughed, given or forgiven.


For every minute you are angry with someone,

you lose 60 seconds of happiness

that you can never get back.


Do what you can, for who you can,

with what you have, and where you are.





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