People often say, that women don’t know what they want. It’s something I hear all the time. But I don’t know about that, I haven’t seen that. What I have seen is quite the contrary. Women seem to always know what they want, and it’s men who appear to be confused. A man thinks a poor woman is only after his money; and a rich woman won’t need him, so he is afraid of both the poor woman and the rich woman. He thinks an unattractive woman isn’t good enough for him; but a beautiful woman is too beautiful for him. A desperate woman is dysfunctional; a happy woman must be doing something questionable to be happy. A good girl isn’t exciting; a bad girl is dirty. He will chase you if you don’t want him and will stop chasing when you do want him. He will make a woman jealous to attract her; then complain that she’s insecure. He will think he’s not good enough; but when you love him, he’ll think it’s because he’s all that. He will want something so much, then cower away when it’s given to him. So, as I have observed, men are the confused sex, not women. They think they want what they want until they get it and then they want something else. I think women know what they want, go exactly after what they want, and if they don’t want it, they drop it. Bam. Efficiency and execution.
Ask yourself “What’s the point of winning over someone of poor character? I’ve been in relationships with users, abusers and cheaters, wanting to win them over to prove I could do it. When all the time I should have been doing what my ten year old niece has done. When I asked my sister how my little niece finally picked a “boyfriend” from her many admirers, she chose a boy who “is nice to her and doesn’t freak her out”. it’s that simple. A child can get it.
When you throw yourself at someone who mistreats you and then keep throwing yourself back at them, you must ask yourself why you do that. Why does he do that? Why do they do that? How do they get away with it? I don’t want to know. They aren’t that special at all that they’re worth this much of your time.
Growing up means learning what life is. When you’re little, you have a set of ideals, standards, criteria, plans, outlooks, and you think that you have to sit around and wait for them to happen to you and then life will work. But life isn’t like that, for anybody; you can’t fall in love with a standard, you have to fall in love with a person. You can’t live in criteria; you have to live your life. You can’t wait for your plans to materialize, because they may never materialize the way you think they will. You can’t wait to watch your ideals and standards walk up to you, because you can’t know what’s yours until you have it. I always say, always take the first chance in case you never get a second one, but growing up takes that even one step further, growing up means that you have to hold on to what you have, when you have it, because what you have- that’s yours- and all the ideals and criteria you have set in your head, those aren’t yours, because those haven’t happened to you.